Get Back Your Ex Simply By Becoming Less Available And An Increased Challenge
You had been a challenge for her. You had a high appeal and she was irresistibly attracted to you. Now she's gone and you are saying: "I want my ex back!"
I am going to make a wild guess here, but could it be that as time went on, you grew to become less and less of a challenge for her? And is it that right now, you might be zero challenge for her? Not to mention that she believes if she wanted to, at any moment she could easily get you back again and wrapped around her finger by simply saying the word?
I am going to be crude here, however as you may already know, to develop into a challenge once again you must show to your ex girlfriend that her sexuality has no influence over you any longer. Contemplate what it's like when you are stalking her with not returned phone calls, voice mails, text messages, and emails. And then think about just what it is like when you keep doing it (as a lot of guys do) even after she's told you to stop. You will be implying to the woman that you're a low-value guy without any other choices.
Your lover will not respect you again until you reject her lovemaking influence over you. Fortunately you are doing that now by not specifically interacting with her. The last thing she needs to hear from you now is how much "I want my ex back", so stay away from her.
Make sure you stay 100% rigid with your communication cut-off. You should not be "pals" with her, because that rewards her with the ongoing consent of power over you while supplying her a handy reason to stay split up. (She reasons that she is letting you down easy doing this, assuaging virtually any guilt she may feel.)
However, make sure to keep her locked in with your stuff. In all likelihood lots of your possessions are at her residence, and vice versa. She could even owe you money as well. She might request a mutual friend of yours to ask you if you'd like everything back.
The right answer to this is "No, not yet. The justification is simply because her holding onto your stuff (and you possessing hers) is still locking you two in and ensuring future communication. You do NOT want to provide her the psychological closure that would come from settling your accounts.
For the next 3 weeks, you must totally acknowledge -- and embrace -- the idea that you're an independent guy now. Take what happened with your ex-lover and learn from it. You have a wonderful opportunity to revolutionize your life which will ultimately allow you to get your exgirlfriend back.